My BlogHer Sisters, They Have My Back

It’s been just over two weeks since I was the last of my roommates to check out of the Sheraton and head home from #BlogHer13, and I haven’t stopped missing them.

My BlogHer sisters.

They have posted recaps already. Heart-warming, brilliant and hilarious – just like the women that wrote them.  I’m still in awe that these are my friends and that I am a part of this community.  Somedays, I feel like an imposter in this life and this world.  I’m waiting for some one to jump through my computer screen and yell “FAKER – You don’t belong!”.

But in searching for my takeaway from #BlogHer13 and this life that I have created for myself, it’s that I do belong here.  I fit.  For the first time in my life, I don’t feel like an outsider on some one else’s path, trying to get someone or something to notice me.  I am creating my own path, brick by brick, in this amazing community that I love.  This is me – take me or leave me.  If you don’t like who I am or what I have to say, feel free to unfriend or unfollow.  I won’t mind, and I won’t take it personally.  I’d like it if you walked with me in my journey, being happy for me that I’ve found a path and people who fulfill a creative part of my soul that I never knew existed.   But I’m not seeking your approval, and I won’t stand by and let you mock me for it.  I did that when I was younger, the pull of wanting to be a part of the “in crowd” was stronger than any worth I placed on myself.  I’ve changed that.  Grown through that.  This community has allowed me to flourish and reminded me that my words have value.  That I have value.

I am thrilled to have met some fabulous women at BlogHer that I am looking forward to keeping in touch with.  They are strong, powerful, brave and amazing and I can’t wait to see what comes next from them.

I am grateful that I was able to spend time with friends I don’t see very often, either because of geography or the time constraints of jobs and motherhood.  It was awesome to see their faces every day, give and receive hugs, and know that I was in the presence of amazing women that I admire so much.

Thank you Kari, Shannon, Marianne, Jeanette and Danielle for unofficially appointing me the leader of our “merry band of misfits” as we called ourselves.  Thank you for letting me attempt to organize and spreadsheet us to death in preparation for an experience that we were all a little terrified of for different reason.  Thank you for putting enough faith in me that I could not only do it, but that I wouldn’t make a complete mess of things. Thank you for laughing and crying with me, enjoying all of our good fortunes and wonderful experiences from the week.  I will cherish our inside jokes and “what happens at BlogHer, stays at BlogHer” pictures forever.

Thank you for having my back.

BlogHer Recap Collage

To see Kari’s BlogHer recap (which includes most of MY pictures – LOL), check out “For Crap Sake Pull Your Dress Up – How I Survive BlogHer 13” on her blog, A Grace Full Life

To see Shannon’s BlogHer recap, check out “BlogHer 2013 Highs and Lows (mostly highs)” on her blog, Deepest Worth

To see Marianne’s BlogHer recap, check out “The Post With No Smoke Up Your Arse” on her blog, We Band of Mothers


  1. Yay for blogger sisters!! I so wish I can join you all in person one of these years!!

  2. You just summed up why I blog. “For the first time in my life, I don’t feel like an outsider on some one else’s path, trying to get someone or something to notice me. I am creating my own path, brick by brick, in this amazing community that I love.” It was so wonderful to meet you at BlogHer.

  3. You’re going to make me all weepy, Jen. Thank you for being so on top of things. And thank you for appreciating me for who I am.
    This doesn’t mean that I am going to stop making fun of your typed agendas. 😉

    • Jennifer Evers says:

      And I will forever taunt you for random clothing in odd places. Which is exactly what sisters do. 😛

  4. I will ALWAYS take you, and NEVER leave you (mostly because I’m prone to tethering myself to you while in public). Seriously, I probably would have abandoned BlogHer Day #1 had it not been for you. It was so overwhelming, but having a fearless and spread-sheeted leader made everything 100% better. xoxo Walshie

    • Jennifer Evers says:

      You are the coolest columnist I know. And you are amazing and brilliant and fearless in so many ways that I am not. Plus you always have booze. xoxo

  5. Aww! So sweet.

  6. Yessss, this!!!!!
    Sisters is the best word to describe us.
    I love you so much for WHO YOU ARE.
    Don’t ever, ever change.
    And we will always have your back.

    • Jennifer Evers says:

      xoxoxo Kari. You rock. And thanks for swiping all of my BlogHer pictures so that I was forced to write a mushy recap instead.

  7. Love this! I am so glad you know you belong and have found such kindred spirits. I am happy you had such an awesome experience at BlogHer avd that we got to meet there. I look forward to keeping in touch. And I totally get making spreadsheets and wanting/needing to be an organizer. I often fill that role with my friends too.